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khawlabentalazwaar:

gothamcityballet:

deafmuslimpunx:

exquisitedialectics:

takealookatyourlife:

Aiya Van Kooten everyone

When Aiya Van Kooten stood face-to-face with a burglar in her bedroom, her left eye twitched, then she went into “predator mode”.
“I screamed at him… jumped off my chair, leaped over my bed and sprinted after him down the stairs,” she said.
http://www.stuff.co.nz/national/crime/8626910/Predator-mode-scares-off-burglars

This is the best story of my life

“Although she was the only one home, Van Kooten said she had no regard for her safety - instead, she said she was just overwhelmed with “rage“….. ummmmm Hero!!! 

Haha, badass Muslim woman. Love it!!!

This lady is so awesome. She lives with her grandma and was studying and had a towel on her head and no shoes but she chased them out of her garden, kicked one up the arse as he climbed a fence, they dropped a camera and laptop, she flagged down a passing driver to help her continue the pursuit, and it turned out he was ex-military, and they finally caught one of them in a park and pinned him as the police arrived. Now she’s going to visit the burglar in prison for the next few months to help with his rehabilitation.
So in summary:
This lady doesn’t just defend her home and loved ones, she will hunt you down, team up with other skilled individuals, get you put away, and then teach you the consequences of your actions until you’re a valuable member of society once more.
Seriously she’s a frigging superhero.

literal hero

khawlabentalazwaar:

gothamcityballet:

deafmuslimpunx:

exquisitedialectics:

takealookatyourlife:

Aiya Van Kooten everyone

When Aiya Van Kooten stood face-to-face with a burglar in her bedroom, her left eye twitched, then she went into “predator mode”.

“I screamed at him… jumped off my chair, leaped over my bed and sprinted after him down the stairs,” she said.

http://www.stuff.co.nz/national/crime/8626910/Predator-mode-scares-off-burglars

This is the best story of my life

Although she was the only one home, Van Kooten said she had no regard for her safety - instead, she said she was just overwhelmed with “rage“….. ummmmm Hero!!! 

Haha, badass Muslim woman. Love it!!!

This lady is so awesome. She lives with her grandma and was studying and had a towel on her head and no shoes but she chased them out of her garden, kicked one up the arse as he climbed a fence, they dropped a camera and laptop, she flagged down a passing driver to help her continue the pursuit, and it turned out he was ex-military, and they finally caught one of them in a park and pinned him as the police arrived. Now she’s going to visit the burglar in prison for the next few months to help with his rehabilitation.

So in summary:

This lady doesn’t just defend her home and loved ones, she will hunt you down, team up with other skilled individuals, get you put away, and then teach you the consequences of your actions until you’re a valuable member of society once more.

Seriously she’s a frigging superhero.

literal hero

ftnd-blog
ftnd-blog:

A Girlfriend & Boyfriend Story
We get thousands of emails from people sharing their stories with us. Most the time they do so anonymously and ask us to take out their names, which is totally cool and we understand.
However, sometimes there are Fighters that are so passionate about this cause and sharing their experience that they want the whole world to hear their story.
This story was sent to us by Victoria, a real life girl with a real life story about the harmful effects of pornography. She and her boyfriend Nick gave us permission to share their story openly. They wrote us not only to share their experience with the harms of pornography, but to tell how much better their lives and relationships are without it.
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Dear FTND,
The attached picture is of me and someone I care about very much. Nick is quite dear to me. He makes me laugh, he makes me feel like a princess, and he makes me want to be a better person. What more could I ask for?
A lot of real, raw conversations over the past year have been pulling me toward telling my story. Now, I guess, here we go.
I first faced up to my ickiest secret when I was seventeen – a festering habit that I just couldn’t shake: porn. It had been around for years, off and on. I’d done a LOT of lying to myself, thinking, “It’s okay, it isn’t really porn,” or “It’s not that big of a deal, no one needs to know. Or sometimes even straight up pretending it wasn’t happening. 
Only now can I look back and see all the ways that it was hurting me. I used it as an escape and a coping mechanism. The list of excuses to use it was always growing. I’d use it to escape in the moments when I felt lowest, but when my brain turned back on afterward, I’d only feel worse. After a while, porn changes the way you see yourself. It drove my wavering self-esteem downward. It started giving me corrupted expectations of sex and corrupted ideas of sexuality. The justifications of “it’s not really porn” grew weaker and weaker as I was dragged further in. I was horrified when I realized that it was also changing the way I looked at people around me. It was easier than ever for me to physically objectify anyone and everyone. It was only when I was coming out of it that I started to truly realize how harmful it had been.
On the night I admitted my problem out loud for the first time, I was at a camp. We had some speakers at the camp and I remember one saying, “You can keep telling yourself that you can deal with your problems on your own. But know that if that were true, you would have done it already.” I decided that night that I’d had enough.
I know now that my problem pales in comparison to many other people’s. But I was so tired of being ashamed, and I was so tired of it sucking up my life and compromising my relationships, that I finally forced myself to admit it to another person.
A few months later, one of my close guy friends admitted to struggling with porn and asked if I would hold him accountable. Of course I said yes, but I faced a dilemma. Do I admit to him that I’ve struggled with it as well? Or do I do what everyone expects of girls and not let him know that I knew exactly what he was dealing with? 
As women, talking about porn is so taboo. The wide assumption is that it’s nothing but a man’s issue. So when a woman speaks up about it, there’s shock and awe and usually more shame heaped up on top. It’s like when a man admits to having an eating disorder or being in an abusive relationship — they’re big problems, but we just assume they’re assigned exclusively to one gender or another.
Anyway, I made the choice to be honest with my friend. That choice led to some very much-needed conversation. It also led to this moment. That choice meant that when a scared boy who now means so much to me looked me in the face and laid out his secret struggles, I knew just how to respond.
We’ve both come so far since then. In so many ways. Since then your organization has become very close to my heart. We appreciate that you inform people on pornography’s harmful effects, and to inspire and encourage recovery from it. I strongly believe that porn’s second biggest strength– the first being how easily accessible it is today – is in its secrecy. People believe that they can’t and shouldn’t talk about it, so they never educate themselves and never get help. Porn thrives in the shadows. Fight the New Drug stands to stop that and we are so grateful for that. Thank you for getting the conversations happening. For turning on the lights. It’s inspired me to start conversations and stand for what I know about how harmful porn is and now, here I am, telling my story. It’s amazing how many conversations will be sparked in a day wearing a t-shirt with only the words “Porn Kills Love” on the front. It’s something I was incredibly uncomfortable with at first, but now I love it.
Where am I now? Now I am committed to fighting. Nick, who is now my boyfriend AND my best friend, is there when I need a shoulder to lean on just as I’m there for him. We fight together. I believe that a porn-free relationship, a porn-free marriage, and a porn-free rest of my life are all possible. And those are my goals.


Something I really want to see is pornography’s true form brought out into the light. I want it known that porn is never harmless. I want to see conversations happening. I want women to stop believing that they are unusual if they struggle as well. And that, I guess, is the reason I chose to share all of this. I get so upset that no women come forward with their problems, so why not me? So here you go. Message me. Comment on this. Tell your story. Educate yourself. Start conversations of your own. I’m hoping for a ripple here. Don’t let me down.
Fighting is not always easy; I guess that’s why we call it a fight. Saying no to porn is hard. It sucks most of the time, to be honest. But the rest of my life is worth it.

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We are so proud to have strong people like Victoria and Nick on our side. They are the true representation of the #PornKillsLove movement. We love hearing from young people who know that porn is harmful and are Fighting to live and love with freedom in their relationships.
Show Victoria and Nick some love and share this article. Stand up for the cause and spread the word. Don’t be scared. You’ve got an entire movement of Fighters behind you. 

ftnd-blog:

A Girlfriend & Boyfriend Story

We get thousands of emails from people sharing their stories with us. Most the time they do so anonymously and ask us to take out their names, which is totally cool and we understand.

However, sometimes there are Fighters that are so passionate about this cause and sharing their experience that they want the whole world to hear their story.

This story was sent to us by Victoria, a real life girl with a real life story about the harmful effects of pornography. She and her boyfriend Nick gave us permission to share their story openly. They wrote us not only to share their experience with the harms of pornography, but to tell how much better their lives and relationships are without it.

———————————————————

Dear FTND,

The attached picture is of me and someone I care about very much. Nick is quite dear to me. He makes me laugh, he makes me feel like a princess, and he makes me want to be a better person. What more could I ask for?

A lot of real, raw conversations over the past year have been pulling me toward telling my story. Now, I guess, here we go.

I first faced up to my ickiest secret when I was seventeen – a festering habit that I just couldn’t shake: porn. It had been around for years, off and on. I’d done a LOT of lying to myself, thinking, “It’s okay, it isn’t really porn,” or “It’s not that big of a deal, no one needs to know. Or sometimes even straight up pretending it wasn’t happening.

Only now can I look back and see all the ways that it was hurting me. I used it as an escape and a coping mechanism. The list of excuses to use it was always growing. I’d use it to escape in the moments when I felt lowest, but when my brain turned back on afterward, I’d only feel worse. After a while, porn changes the way you see yourself. It drove my wavering self-esteem downward. It started giving me corrupted expectations of sex and corrupted ideas of sexuality. The justifications of “it’s not really porn” grew weaker and weaker as I was dragged further in. I was horrified when I realized that it was also changing the way I looked at people around me. It was easier than ever for me to physically objectify anyone and everyone. It was only when I was coming out of it that I started to truly realize how harmful it had been.

On the night I admitted my problem out loud for the first time, I was at a camp. We had some speakers at the camp and I remember one saying, “You can keep telling yourself that you can deal with your problems on your own. But know that if that were true, you would have done it already.” I decided that night that I’d had enough.

I know now that my problem pales in comparison to many other people’s. But I was so tired of being ashamed, and I was so tired of it sucking up my life and compromising my relationships, that I finally forced myself to admit it to another person.

A few months later, one of my close guy friends admitted to struggling with porn and asked if I would hold him accountable. Of course I said yes, but I faced a dilemma. Do I admit to him that I’ve struggled with it as well? Or do I do what everyone expects of girls and not let him know that I knew exactly what he was dealing with? 

As women, talking about porn is so taboo. The wide assumption is that it’s nothing but a man’s issue. So when a woman speaks up about it, there’s shock and awe and usually more shame heaped up on top. It’s like when a man admits to having an eating disorder or being in an abusive relationship — they’re big problems, but we just assume they’re assigned exclusively to one gender or another.

Anyway, I made the choice to be honest with my friend. That choice led to some very much-needed conversation. It also led to this moment. That choice meant that when a scared boy who now means so much to me looked me in the face and laid out his secret struggles, I knew just how to respond.

We’ve both come so far since then. In so many ways. Since then your organization has become very close to my heart. We appreciate that you inform people on pornography’s harmful effects, and to inspire and encourage recovery from it. I strongly believe that porn’s second biggest strength– the first being how easily accessible it is today – is in its secrecy. People believe that they can’t and shouldn’t talk about it, so they never educate themselves and never get help. Porn thrives in the shadows. Fight the New Drug stands to stop that and we are so grateful for that. Thank you for getting the conversations happening. For turning on the lights. It’s inspired me to start conversations and stand for what I know about how harmful porn is and now, here I am, telling my story. It’s amazing how many conversations will be sparked in a day wearing a t-shirt with only the words “Porn Kills Love” on the front. It’s something I was incredibly uncomfortable with at first, but now I love it.

Where am I now? Now I am committed to fighting. Nick, who is now my boyfriend AND my best friend, is there when I need a shoulder to lean on just as I’m there for him. We fight together. I believe that a porn-free relationship, a porn-free marriage, and a porn-free rest of my life are all possible. And those are my goals.

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Something I really want to see is pornography’s true form brought out into the light. I want it known that porn is never harmless. I want to see conversations happening. I want women to stop believing that they are unusual if they struggle as well. And that, I guess, is the reason I chose to share all of this. I get so upset that no women come forward with their problems, so why not me? So here you go. Message me. Comment on this. Tell your story. Educate yourself. Start conversations of your own. I’m hoping for a ripple here. Don’t let me down.

Fighting is not always easy; I guess that’s why we call it a fight. Saying no to porn is hard. It sucks most of the time, to be honest. But the rest of my life is worth it.

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We are so proud to have strong people like Victoria and Nick on our side. They are the true representation of the #PornKillsLove movement. We love hearing from young people who know that porn is harmful and are Fighting to live and love with freedom in their relationships.

Show Victoria and Nick some love and share this article. Stand up for the cause and spread the word. Don’t be scared. You’ve got an entire movement of Fighters behind you. 

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REAL LIFE DISNEY PRINCE TOM HIDDLESTON EXHIBIT

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Always reblog the Real Life Disney Prince. Pay attention boys, this is how it’s done.

I’ve always liked Tom Hiddleston but this just made me fall in love with him

I’m not gonna lie, my eyes got a little blurry.

He is amazing. He gives me hope in fairytale endings.

always reblog

illestmisfit
illestmisfit:

hello-missmayhem:

cptprocrastination:

doomhamster:

belcanta:

nikkidubs:

attentiondeficitaptitude:

belcanta:

Guaranteed basic income to every citizen, whether or not they are employed to ensure their survival and that they live in a dignified, humane way, preventing poverty, illness, homelessness, reducing crime, encouraging higher education and learning vocations as well as helping society become more prosperous as a whole. 

Wow. Forget raising the minimum wage. This is much much better idea.
The minimum wage could actually drop if we had basic income.
But Americans would never go for it. Miserably slogging through 12 hour days and having businesses open 24/7 is too engrained in our culture.

"BUT WHERE WILL THE GOVERNMENT GET THE MONEY?" screamed Joe Schmoe, slamming a meaty fist onto the table and getting mouth-froth all over the front of his greying tank top. "You libt*rds all think money grows on TREES!! HAHA!""But where will people get the incentive to work?!" Mindy Bindy cried, flapping her hands in front of her face. She’d had a fear of the unemployed lollygagging about ever since she was a child and her mother told her to be afraid of the unemployed lollygagging about. "You think people should get paid for nothing? I work hard for my money!”
"But who will serve me?" grumbled Marty McMoneybags. "Who will make me feel important? Who will do my laundry and cook my food and stand in front of me wearing a plastic smile while I take out all my stress—because I do have a lot of stress, you know, being this rich is stressful—on them?” He paused and straightened out the piles of hundred dollar bills on the desk in front of him, then raised his two watery, outraged eyes up to the Heavens. “Lord, if there are no poor people, how will I know that I’m rich??”

I laughed. This is perfect! Well said!

The thing is, while I’m sure you could scrape up a few people who’d be willing to just float by on a guaranteed minimum income? For most people the choice to work would be a no-brainer. “Hmmm. I can get by on 33k a year, or I can take that part time job and make 48k… enough to move to a better apartment, maybe take the family on vacation. Sold.” Hell, most people would want to work simply because it gives one a sense of dignity and something to do with one’s time. (Speaking as someone who’s been unemployed, on extended sick leave, etc. in her time, the boredom and sense of isolation that comes with not having a job is almost as bad as the humiliation of having to depend on other people for one’s survival.)
And with this system, part-time jobs and “non-skilled” jobs would be much more readily available because nobody would need to work two or three jobs just to stay afloat!
Which would ALSO mean that employers and customers couldn’t shamelessly exploit employees the way they can today, because if losing a job weren’t necessarily a financial disaster, more people would be willing to walk out on jobs where they weren’t being treated with dignity.
And if this also applies to students (and it should) then student loans would become much less of a problem, and fewer people would flunk out of school because of having to juggle studies and work.
Far fewer people would be forced to stay with abusive partners, parents or roommates because they couldn’t afford to move out.
And the thing is, all those people who suddenly had money? They’d be spending it. They’d be getting all the stuff they can’t afford now - new clothes, books, toys, locally-produced food, car repairs - and with each purchase money would flow BACK to the government, because VAT, also income tax.
The unemployed and/or disabled wouldn’t need special support any more - which would also mean the government could fire however many admins who are currently engaged in humiliating - *cough* making sure those people aren’t getting money they don’t deserve. Same for medical benefits and pensions. And I’m no legal scholar, but I somehow imagine less financial desperation would lead to less petty crime, and hence less need for police and security everywhere?
TL;DR Doomie thinks this is a good idea, laughs at those who protest.

reblogging for more top commentary

They tried something like this out in Canada as a sort of social experiment, called Mincome. What they found was that, on the whole, people continued to work about as much as they did before. Only new mothers and teenagers worked substantially less hours. 
But wait, there’s more. Because parents were spending just a little more time at home and involved with their families, test scores increased. Because teens didn’t have to work to support their families, drop-out rates decreased. Crime rates, hospital visits, psychiatric hospitalizations and domestic abuse rates all dropped, as well. More adults pursued higher education. Those who continued to work reported more job flexibility and more opportunity to choose employment they preferred.
Basically, now you can go prove to your asshole family members that society won’t collapse without poor people for you to feel better than.

But where does the money come from? They probably just raise taxes.

I think this is a wonderful idea. even if the taxes were raised it would mean more money flowing back to the people and the would be able to afford it. There would be less financial stress and it would build on itself. doing that would cut down on spending some but it would reallocate the money back to the people where it belongs.

illestmisfit:

hello-missmayhem:

cptprocrastination:

doomhamster:

belcanta:

nikkidubs:

attentiondeficitaptitude:

belcanta:

Guaranteed basic income to every citizen, whether or not they are employed to ensure their survival and that they live in a dignified, humane way, preventing poverty, illness, homelessness, reducing crime, encouraging higher education and learning vocations as well as helping society become more prosperous as a whole. 

Wow. Forget raising the minimum wage. This is much much better idea.

The minimum wage could actually drop if we had basic income.

But Americans would never go for it. Miserably slogging through 12 hour days and having businesses open 24/7 is too engrained in our culture.

"BUT WHERE WILL THE GOVERNMENT GET THE MONEY?" screamed Joe Schmoe, slamming a meaty fist onto the table and getting mouth-froth all over the front of his greying tank top. "You libt*rds all think money grows on TREES!! HAHA!"

"But where will people get the incentive to work?!" Mindy Bindy cried, flapping her hands in front of her face. She’d had a fear of the unemployed lollygagging about ever since she was a child and her mother told her to be afraid of the unemployed lollygagging about. "You think people should get paid for nothing? I work hard for my money!”

"But who will serve me?" grumbled Marty McMoneybags. "Who will make me feel important? Who will do my laundry and cook my food and stand in front of me wearing a plastic smile while I take out all my stress—because I do have a lot of stress, you know, being this rich is stressful—on them?” He paused and straightened out the piles of hundred dollar bills on the desk in front of him, then raised his two watery, outraged eyes up to the Heavens. “Lord, if there are no poor people, how will I know that I’m rich??”

I laughed. This is perfect! Well said!

The thing is, while I’m sure you could scrape up a few people who’d be willing to just float by on a guaranteed minimum income? For most people the choice to work would be a no-brainer. “Hmmm. I can get by on 33k a year, or I can take that part time job and make 48k… enough to move to a better apartment, maybe take the family on vacation. Sold.” Hell, most people would want to work simply because it gives one a sense of dignity and something to do with one’s time. (Speaking as someone who’s been unemployed, on extended sick leave, etc. in her time, the boredom and sense of isolation that comes with not having a job is almost as bad as the humiliation of having to depend on other people for one’s survival.)

And with this system, part-time jobs and “non-skilled” jobs would be much more readily available because nobody would need to work two or three jobs just to stay afloat!

Which would ALSO mean that employers and customers couldn’t shamelessly exploit employees the way they can today, because if losing a job weren’t necessarily a financial disaster, more people would be willing to walk out on jobs where they weren’t being treated with dignity.

And if this also applies to students (and it should) then student loans would become much less of a problem, and fewer people would flunk out of school because of having to juggle studies and work.

Far fewer people would be forced to stay with abusive partners, parents or roommates because they couldn’t afford to move out.

And the thing is, all those people who suddenly had money? They’d be spending it. They’d be getting all the stuff they can’t afford now - new clothes, books, toys, locally-produced food, car repairs - and with each purchase money would flow BACK to the government, because VAT, also income tax.

The unemployed and/or disabled wouldn’t need special support any more - which would also mean the government could fire however many admins who are currently engaged in humiliating - *cough* making sure those people aren’t getting money they don’t deserve. Same for medical benefits and pensions. And I’m no legal scholar, but I somehow imagine less financial desperation would lead to less petty crime, and hence less need for police and security everywhere?

TL;DR Doomie thinks this is a good idea, laughs at those who protest.

reblogging for more top commentary

They tried something like this out in Canada as a sort of social experiment, called Mincome. What they found was that, on the whole, people continued to work about as much as they did before. Only new mothers and teenagers worked substantially less hours. 

But wait, there’s more. Because parents were spending just a little more time at home and involved with their families, test scores increased. Because teens didn’t have to work to support their families, drop-out rates decreased. Crime rates, hospital visits, psychiatric hospitalizations and domestic abuse rates all dropped, as well. More adults pursued higher education. Those who continued to work reported more job flexibility and more opportunity to choose employment they preferred.

Basically, now you can go prove to your asshole family members that society won’t collapse without poor people for you to feel better than.

But where does the money come from?

They probably just raise taxes.

I think this is a wonderful idea. even if the taxes were raised it would mean more money flowing back to the people and the would be able to afford it. There would be less financial stress and it would build on itself. doing that would cut down on spending some but it would reallocate the money back to the people where it belongs.

paramourellariasand

Anonymous asked:

Hi! I'm sorry to bother, but I have a question. I have a friend who looks white (blonde, light skin, green eyes) but was actually born and raised in India by her Hindu parents. She practices Hinduism and only recently moved to the states. She still wears traditional clothing, but the other day she posted a picture of herself in her traditional clothes and got a lot of hate for it, people saying it was cultural appropriation. She's bummed out about it and is now questioning her ethnicity. Help?

stirringwind answered:

1. All those people screaming cultural appropriation at her are ignoramuses who are basically saying, “Wow, you don’t look like my ill-informed, narrow-minded stereotype of what people from this region actually look like!” and “I actually subscribe to horrible, reductionist stereotypes that Indian people can only have dark hair, skin and eyes. Light hair? Green eyes? European (origin) only!” 

This is gonna be a tad long, because it’s gonna delve into biology and history- and it’s because I hope people realise how artificial the US paradigm of race is. It’s woefully incompetent at understanding the biological diversity of our species because it is a social construct. Modern scientists and historians generally refuse to categorise people on the amount of melanin they have because it’s just reductionist and oversimplistic- what they do is classify people by their geographic origin, linguistic and cultural ties. 

2. India is an EXTREMELY diverse continent. It’s so genetically diverse that the only place more genetically diverse is the African continent, aka, the birthplace of humanity. And this is a big deal. I’ll explain why.

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Surprise! People inhabiting an extremely large country that has more than 2000 ethnic groups, members of all the world’s religions, been the site of multiple ancient civilisations, been on the major crossroads of human migration and trade for thousands of years come in multiple colours!

  • Presently, the most widely-accepted theory of our origins is the Recent African Origin, or Out of Africa TheoryThis holds that originally, humans first appeared in Africa, thus all of us have African ancestors. All modern non-Africans are descended from much smaller groups of people who migrated out of Africa, anytime from 65,000 to 125,000 years ago. How do scientists know this? By looking at our DNA, in addition to fossil and archaeological records. They discovered that the differences in the DNA of non-African peoples like say, a German a Japanese and a New Zealand Maori was far less than the genetic differences between people from different African ethnic groups. (Somali, Dinka, Yoruba, San, Kikuyu, Luo etc- I’m BARELY scratching the surface)
  • What this meant was that Africa had to be the original, diverse genetic pool where modern humans first appeared. Everybody else outside of Africa today is descended from much smaller groups of people who left Africa at various times- and that ancestral genetic “bottleneck” is why people who appear to have very different heritage (e.g European vs East Asian) actually have far less genetic variation than the various African peoples.
  • So, India being the second most genetically diverse place on this planet is a big deal- it’s basically second only to THE CRADLE OF HUMANITY. That’s why I’m pretty convinced your friend can have blonde hair and green eyes and still be 100% Made in India.

3. Now, the genetics of India itself.

Genetic studies have shown that if you take a modern Indian from any part of India, no matter how dark or fair they are, his or her lineage will consist of mixing from two main ancestral groups. One is the Ancestral Northern Indians (ANI), and the other the Ancestral Southern Indians (ASI). You may have heard of the ancient Indian caste system which put a lot of social pressure that prohibited marrying outside your caste. Caste discrimination is banned today, but old attitudes do persist. However, even this caste rigidity wasn’t so 4000- 2000 years ago. ANI people married ASI pretty freely, so that’s why every modern Indian has heredity from both groups. So, already to start off, you got quite a fair bit of diversity hidden in people’s genes. 

  • And the next interesting part to explain why it IS possible for Indians to have features stereotyped as “European” is because while the ASI seemed to be genetically unique to the Indian subcontinent, the ANI people are genetically related to Middle-Easterns, Europeans and Caucasians (and I mean this not in the sense of “white” as often used in the US, but the actual region of Caucasus, which borders Europe and Asia).
  • You mentioned she looks “white”- and the American-understanding of “white” being hurled at her by those people screaming cultural appropriation are actually ignorantly treating “white” as synonymous with “European-origin”. In reality, it’s completely useless in the realm of biology. Biologically, there is actually no real dichotomy where “European” suddenly ends and “Asia” begins. 

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  • As I earlier pointed out, well, we’re all kinda related. And it’s not at all earth-shattering that some people from India look like they’re of “European-origin”. Because modern Europeans, Central Asians and the Ancestral Northern Indians are all believed to be descendants of a group of people called the Proto-Indo-Europeans. It’s believed they lived around 6000-7000 years ago. Some modern people that are descended from the Proto-Indo-Europeans are French, Germans, Iranians and Pashtuns (a major ethnic group in Afghanistan).  It’s even been found that Europeans and Indians shared a gene for fair skin from a common ancestor- which is why there ARE people who look like your friend. Naturally, fair skin is just relatively rarer in India vs Europe because more parts of India are located in hotter regions. Therefore, there’s more selection pressure for darker skin which has more melanin to protect from the sun- making fair skin rarer, but still possible. 

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(This is a map of the Kurgan Hypothesis, which is currently the most popular theory for how the Proto-Indo-Europeans migrated from their homeland to settle Europe, Central Asia, Iran, India and Turkey etc)

  • Saying Indians are descendants of the Proto-Indo-Europeans is NOT the same as saying they’re of “European origin”. For example, think of the Proto-Indo-Europeans as like the “mother” of Europeans, Central Asians and the Ancestral Northern Indians- they’re like “sibling” groups, not descendants. The original Indo-Europeans were not “European” in the modern sense. I am clarifying this because plenty of colonial-era scientific racism tried to attribute ancient India’s achievements to “European who left Europe for India”- you might have heard the phrase “Aryan” thrown around in Nazi Germany, which was used to mean “blonde hair, blue eyes”. Nazi scientists and historians also abused it to explain away the sophistication of non-European civilisations in Ancient Egypt and India. In reality, ”Aryan” is derived from the ancient Sanskrit word “Arya" which means "noble". Sanskrit is an ancient language still used in classical Indian texts, and is of Proto-Indo-European origin. For example, the name of the country “Iran” actually means “land of the Aryans”- it was the names ancient Iranians (another people descended from the Proto-Indo-Europeans) gave to what others called the Persian Empire for more than a thousand years before the Third Reich. 

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  • Furthermore, many languages we often separate as “European” and “Asian” like German, English, French, Italian vs. Hindi, Farsi (Persian), Gujarati, Punjabi, Pashto, Sanskrit etc are ALL classified by linguists as belonging to the same Indo-European language family- which all evolved from the original language the Proto-Indo-Europeans spoke. See how artificial the Europe/Asia dichotomy really is, in terms of human genetics and origin of cultures? 

4. Finally- there’s plenty of modern proof that the region we call Europe today does NOT have a monopoly on producing people with blonde hair, fair skin and green eyes.

This is Aishwarya Rai Bachchan, a popular Indian Bollywood actress who is also known for her striking blue-green eyes. She’s 100% Indian- she was born in Mangalore, India to Indian parents. 

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This is a couple at their wedding- the lady on the left is Indian, from the Southern Indian city of Hyderabad. Her husband is Ethiopian.image

This is a photo of a boy and a woman who is likely his mother, taken in Turkey.

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This is a girl from Darfur, Sudan- an area that has more than 30 ethnic groups.

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This is a Nuristani girl. The Nuristani people are an ethnic group from Afghanistan. 

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5. And in the first place, what makes up a person’s identity IS NOT JUST HOW MUCH or HOW LITTLE MELANIN THEY HAVE.

  • Tell your friend she is 100% Indian, because what makes up her identity is not just how she looks. Identity is what feels most natural to her, and if that identity is indeed very intertwined with major aspects of Indian culture- then well, she IS Indian and noone can say otherwise. 
  • Those people had no right to make her feel awful and “not-Indian enough” because it’s clear she identifies as such due to actually being born there and also practising major aspects of Indian culture. The best example I can think of to explain this is how in the US, people sometimes use the term “Latino” as a race category, with the stereotype that all latinos must have tanned skin and dark hair. In reality, it’s more of a cultural identity. The are fair haired-latinos and darker-skinned latinos whose ancestors included the African slaves brought to the Americas four hundred years ago. But what really makes them “Latino” or “Hispanic” is their upbringing- growing up in the environment of Latin America, which is culturally a syncretic fusion of Amerindian, African, Spanish, Portuguese and other European influences. 

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(This is the Brazilian football team that won the 1970 World Cup- you can see Pelé- second from the bottom right. He is an Afro-Brazilian. If you look at his teammates, you can see how latinos come in ALL COLOURS.)

6. Your friend should not be questioning her identity, but those people attacking her should be questioning their utterly myopic worldview. The history of human genetics and migrations makes it abundantly clear how DIVERSE India is- so it’s perfectly possible for her to be Indian but have blonde hair and green eyes, even if it may be less common. 

7. On a more general note, I cannot stress this enough to everyone- DO NOT GO AROUND ATTACKING PEOPLE for “cultural appropriation” when you are NOT even from that culture in question and/or don’t actually know in detail the history and genetics of that region.

  • If you suspect cultural appropriation: DO YOUR RESEARCH FIRST or ASK SOMEBODY you know who actually belongs to that group. You may be attacking mixed-race people or people like the anon’s friend, who simply has features that are less genetically dominant- blonde hair shows up less easily in countries with a bigger pool of people with dark hair because dark hair is dominant. Even if her parents had dark hair, it’s possible they both carried a recessive gene for blonde hair that was suppressed by their dark-hair gene. Their child would be blonde if she happened to get both copies of the blonde gene instead of the dark hair gene.
  • Also, even if you think the person isn’t of that group, please bear in mind they might have been invited to dress in that clothing by a friend, or because they’re at an event. (I.e let’s say, at an Indian wedding)
  • I can’t stress how infuriating this “white knight” complex is. Speaking as someone pretty familiar with colonialism, I’ve had people who didn’t grow up in my culture condescendingly insist that if I’m okay with somebody doing something from my culture, it’s “self-internalised oppression”. I’ve studied African colonial literature, and the way people insist on defining what people should be alright with is very reminiscent of 19th century imperialists high-handedly saying, “oh, we have to bring the light of civilisation to save those backwards colonial subjects from themselves!”

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This is Reese Witherspoon, wearing a kimono in Japan, where she is being taught by JAPANESE people how to perform the traditional tea ceremony. This is not reducing a culture to a caricature because she’s actually learning stuff respectfully and wearing a bona fide kimono.

  • Fighting against cultural appropriation is to prevent cultures from being cheapened, made into jokes, sexual fetishes or ugly caricatures. Part of returning power to people to define themselves is ALSO by allowing them to set the parameters of what they want to share with others- and many cultures are perfectly willing to share aspects that are non-sacred or do not have to be earned. So, for example, do not go around insisting a Japanese person should not be allowed to teach non-Japanese people to wear a kimono- because a kimono, unlike a Navajo war bonnet (akin to veteran’s medals), is something anybody can wear. Recognise this difference.

youarenotdesi:

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Know the difference.

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